496: How to Get a Girlfriend While Running a Business [Unpatched Full Proof Method]

Here’s how to manage a relationship or pursue one around being a full time entrepreneur. For my male audience.

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What's up guys? Welcome to the social media entrepreneurs podcast, teaching how to become a full-time entrepreneur by leveraging all the strategies of life. And today we are talking about entrepreneurship and relationships. I just got engaged a couple weeks ago. I've been dating someone for a little over two years. We did have a little time apart in there, approximately three to five months, that we had a break, I guess you could say. Although it was more of a breakup. But the goal of this podcast is not to tell you all about my relationship, but just the reason why I think now is a good time for me to talk about this. Although I have wanted to talk about it for a while, because when I was a single entrepreneur, as much as I wanted to care about my business more than relationships, I did not know how to. It was always taking a backseat. I always cared more about finding a relationship or even going on dates and just talking to girls or potentially making something happen. Even if I wasn't trying to rush into a relationship, it felt like a more important goal in life to me. And a lot of people, if you're asked, like what's your main goals in life, just list them all. They probably will start with getting married, having kids will be a little bit sooner in the process than well, I want to come out with this many podcasts in my lifetime, right? It usually does take a backseat as far as your main purpose in life, anyway. So it makes sense. But what's back ass words about it, especially for men, is that you usually do have to be able to pursue the business and create a life that is worth coming into for a girl, and that's what we're gonna be talking about today. So I'm gonna be talking about the mentality involved, I'm also gonna be talking about a very just step-by-step process on how to get dates. I'm gonna tell you my exact blueprint for how I was able to go on quite a bit of dates at the time that I did meet my fiance. I was actually at a point where I was consistently able to get dates, and that is when I met my wife. So it is very difficult for you to really meet the person that you're meant to be with, and someone that you think is someone you're willing to settle for, even right? Settle settle down with, I should say. Uh, not settle for, settle someone you'll you're willing to settle down with, and you feel comfortable and confident in yourself throughout the process. You're not having a roller coaster of a relationship where you guys are both really battling your insecurities. It's just not gonna work like that. And usually what that means is that you are able to get dates without it really being that big of a deal. So I'm gonna tell you guys exactly what I had to do, and then I'm going to give you the final lesson, which is what is the goal of a relationship in entrepreneurship? Because it actually is different than the goal of a relationship for two traditional workers. This is a very important episode. I urge you to listen to the entire thing if you are really wanting to take this seriously and find someone that will be your partner in life and potentially partner in business. So let's get into it. I'm gonna teach you the method first because that's the fun stuff. This is what you do. You don't need to do dating apps, okay? If dating apps work for you, keep doing them. If dating apps don't work for you, stop doing them. The results that you're getting so far are the results that you're always going to get. It does not matter if you buy a course because they cannot teach you how to be more of yourself. And that is something that's very important in dating, and everyone says that, and it is absolutely true, and even though it is cliche. Now, you can't watch a course and get some lines on say this, these are the best 10 opening lines to use on hinge. This is what to say next, this is how you get the date, this is how you do this. I know I'm trying to do that for you right now and give you a blueprint, but this is one for someone who wants to meet girls in person, but also doesn't want to carve out their entire schedule to be like, I'm gonna go approach girls at the mall for three hours, right? Like, that's weird to put in your schedule. You know that's weird. I'm gonna go day game. I'm gonna go um, you know, what is it called? Cold, yeah, cold approach. I'm gonna go cold approach 50 girls this week. That's the goal. That's just weird, right? It feels weird to set it as a goal uh because you know that you should be setting business goals and not kind of weird goals for something in your life that is supposed to more naturally come together and not be something that you have to force or just put in a ton of hours into, um, right? It's just kind of disingenuous in a way. So that's the good news. You don't have to do that, you absolutely don't have to do dating apps. All you have to do is go about your life as it is. There's just a little bit more to it, but that is what is so cool about the method that I'm gonna teach you. And the reason why this is also so important is because if you don't go about your life as it is and do your business as you need to and enjoy your life as you want to, you won't be able to attract the right partner, anyways. Because your business will be in shambles. You'll have in the back of your mind this knowing that, oh man, I I really shouldn't be at the bars right now trying to get three numbers by the end of the night. I did actually have a lot of work and I didn't finish my podcast. It needs to go out tomorrow. And I'm kind of broke, actually. Why am I at the bars right now? I'm I'm broke. I'm buying girls drinks on credit cards and like it's coming across in my demeanor and everything that I do. That woman can read your mind. All right, this is why it doesn't work. Well, this is why the other methods don't work apart from getting laid. Women can read your mind, and if they can't do it the first time they meet you, they will be able to do it the second, third, or fourth time. They can read your mind. If you are insecure in them yourself, they know it. You can only fake it for so long. So, therefore, you cannot get in a long-term relationship, especially one that turns into a marriage, unless you are truly secure in yourself. And a truly secure man would go about living his life as he would, right? So, this is exactly what I did. I would just do my work as normal, but I wouldn't start with the work. I actually would plan the fun stuff first. I found all of the local meetup groups in my area. This is just what I want to do, by the way. There's a lot of ways that I you can do this. I found local meetups where it was uh in in Colorado, we have one called Mountain Kids, MTN KDS, and basically they were like, We're all going on a hike, we're all gonna do a Halloween party, we're all going to the mountains, we're all doing some kind of camping trip, we're all going um to do this St. Patrick's Day parade, we're all gonna do a Taylor Swift bar crawl, which is where I met my fiance. And I would just go to them by myself, and this is the key. You have to go to things by yourself because this is a sign of a truly secure man, and that you can uh you can fake it, right? If you're not even secure yet, you can go to things by yourself, and every woman will be completely fooled that you are a secure man because that is not a weird thing to do, that is not a weird thing at all to do if you completely own it. Who did you come with? Oh, I just came with myself. Wow, that's that's really cool. You just yeah, I thought it would be a good time. I just want to get out of the house, meet some cool people. That's awesome. They're not like, oh, freak, like, where's your friends, freak? Like, I came here for friends, I came here to meet friends, but that that doesn't exist, okay? Like, all of this like judgmental shit just exists in your mind, and you already know, like, anyone who's judging is just projecting. So, like, don't fucking worry about that at all. You look like a the absolute top dog when you come by yourself, okay? And the friend groups will welcome you into their friend group. If you come by yourself, they're like, hey, it's just one. What do you guys think? Can this guy come into our friend group? That that you know, that conversation is not actually gonna happen, but that is what essentially happens. And I would just go to things by myself, okay. Now, this is very key for a lot of reasons. One, you do you are not reliant on someone else to live your life. There is a point, especially once you get in your 30s, that you don't have a bunch of single friends, okay? And you don't need to bring, oh, I brought my married friend with me because I'm too shy to go out by myself. So now me and my married friend are gonna stay in the corner and talk to each other and just kind of side-eye the room while he looks for a girl for me and I look for a girl for me, and they can totally tell from our body language. And then after a few drinks, I'm finally gonna get the courage to go talk to this other girl, and I'm gonna be all weird about it. I'm gonna bring my married friend with me because I can't go outside by myself. That is what you look like bringing your friend, okay? Wingmanning is a lie. Wingmanning is an absolute lie unless you have two fucking awesome, completely secure guys, completely secure, completely fit, completely got their lives together. Otherwise, you are the sum of your party, and you should be more together than any of your friends, anyways. If you're an entrepreneur, you should be in better shape, you should have better finances, or be working towards better finances, and at least you have a vision of making way more money than they will ever make and have way more freedom than they will ever have, and doing what you want to do in life, unlike your friends. So, why would you even be bringing your friends that oh, it's my buddy from high school that got married at a young age, and he and his wife hate each other, and he's just trying to get out of the house, and I brought him with me. No, you go by yourself, and if you really want to meet people, this is how you do it. You go by yourself, you will be by yourself for five minutes. You will get to that bar, you will get a drink, you will turn to your right or left at that bar and you can say, Hey, what's up? And and you don't even have to say anything else, and it doesn't even have to be a girl. I recommend you don't even go meet girls first. I recommend you go meet guys because girls are all watching you, they know exactly what you're doing. So if you go there and you're there to make friends, you don't crit, you don't care. You're not here to get laid, you're not here to get a relationship. Why wouldn't you want to meet a friend? Hey, he's got a business too, that's awesome. Now you're clicking. Oh, you you came out with your friend. Oh, hey, how's it going? Now all of a sudden you're not alone. You will be alone for like five fucking minutes. Everyone out at the bars, everyone out at any social gathering. All right, it doesn't have to be drinks related either. Um, you know, you can find the local meetup groups in your area. I would not recommend going to singles events, by the way. Those are those are for weirdos. You already know that you don't have to go. Singles events are for weirdos. But these friend hangouts, come meet some friends, those are cool people, okay. We're all playing volleyball in the car, go to a volleyball tournament, go to concerts by yourself. Oh my gosh, going to concerts by yourself is the best, it's so much better than in large groups. I used to go to concerts with like 13 friends, okay. I would go with like no, like 20 or 30 friends. It was cute. We were all in college, it was EDM was like finally taking off. We'd go in our groups of like 20 to 30 people to Red Rocks, and we would uh party and uh and that's it. We had a good time and we were completely sober, and we would uh yeah, we'd have a great time. But you know what the real hack is is going to a concert by yourself. I went to an EDM show by myself probably about two years ago, and it was so fucking awesome. I was part of like every friend group. Now I will say I have exceptional communication skills, so that is partly why I'm gonna do that. But here's the catch why do I have exceptional communication skills? Because I put myself into these positions where I have to just go say fucking hi. It's not a big deal, it truly is not. You can go there and you say hi, and you'll what you'll find is every one of those people out there is longing for human connection. You might find a few people who are not, but most of them are very open to saying hi to you, especially if you go to something like a concert. They're like, hey, what's up? Hey, oh yeah, have you seen this artist before? No, I haven't. Have you? Yeah, I saw him like two years ago. Oh, was it good? Yeah, it was amazing. Blah blah blah. What's your name? Boom, you made a friend. It's really that easy. But I was hopping around between friend groups, and I was totally being the glue to every friend group. I was coming in, I was making them have a better time, and I got on my way. And guess what? You can just Irish goodbye at the end of the night if you want to. You can just leave. But here is why it's very important to go by yourself. One, your goal before you go to these events, actually, you are going to invite someone. You are going to go to things that you want to. So I kind of I said this backwards. You might you might go by yourself. Otherwise, what you're gonna do is you're gonna invite whoever you're interested in, and you're gonna go from the most the girl that you're most interested on your list to the last one and invite them to go with you. Um, at least if you think that they would want to go to this event with you, right? So if you're going to an EDM concert and there's a girl that you like, what you tell her is, hey, I'm going to an EDM concert this Saturday. Would you like to go with me? You can say that, or you can even say, Hey, I have an extra ticket to this EDM show on Saturday. Would you like would you like it? And like, would you wanna would you like to go with me? It's really that fucking simple, okay? Even though I started on my words there. But uh, I was just thinking if there's like, is there any like pizzazz that you gotta put on this? No. This is the best way to ask why is you are already doing something. Life is already happening with or without her. She sees that you have a life, whether that she is in it or not. When your first ask is a for for a girl, is hey, do you wanna go get drinks on Saturday? I'll block off any part of the day that you want. Oh, you can't make Saturday happen, or or you need to let me know. Oh, okay, well, yeah, let me know because I can do Sunday as well. Okay, now all of a sudden you have completely lost that girl forever. It really is that easy to lose a girl, and I probably don't have to tell you because all they are paying attention to is all of these subtle nuances that you already gave away all of your cards. They can read your mind and they can read a little bit of your actions and know if you are a secure guy or not. And as soon as you are an insecure guy, you are not safe to date, which is true. You are not safe today. I would not want my daughter to date insecure men. The process of becoming a secure man is difficult, though. So it's not even to to um to say anything bad about you. You are at that place of life that I was absolutely at as well, and you will get through it, but it takes a long time, it really does, and it takes a lot of dates and it takes a lot of attempts. But here's what you do so you you say, Hey, did you want to go with me? Here's why it's so amazing. If she says, Yes, great, okay, cool. Just go buy her a ticket online and you have an extra ticket. You do have an extra ticket, you did have an extra ticket the whole time, right? And I probably wouldn't even tell her, like, I just bought it for you. Like, well, I don't know. You you you judge it how you should, but um, yeah, then you give her the ticket, and then she's like, Oh, thanks. Um, I got a free ticket from this guy, so it he's got money, he's got security, which is necessary, okay? Then the number one thing that you can earn in life to to keep a woman is money, and it's not because of what you think, it's not at all because women are gold diggers, it's just because they they would be absolutely retarded if they were not valuing men with money. Like you're just gonna work, yeah. This guy is you're just signing up to work the rest of your life, and you're all both gonna be uh broke as hell in retirement, and you're never gonna travel, you're never gonna do anything fun. Why would she want to date a broke man? All right, so you should show you you should you should take every chance you get to like buy stuff. If she wants to buy something every once in a while, that's fine. All right, but otherwise, you shouldn't even be making a deal out of it. Like, you have so much money that like you don't really care, is is really the best vibe that you could give off. Like, oh, like 50 bucks, like I wipe my ass with 50 bucks. That's like a better vibe. Now, how do you do that? Is having that actually be true, otherwise, there's no way to possibly fake it. So, you do wanna you gotta be actively building your business, actively building your business that is going to do more for you in the dating realm than going on a hundred dates as a broke man. So, when you ask her, if she says yes, great. If she says no, you live to fight another day. And in the other example, if you just say, Hey, can you please um go to the do you want to meet at the bar at one on Saturday or maybe at five? Because my whole day's free and my whole day revolves around seeing you potentially. That's my weekend completely revolves around you, and then she says no. Uh, or what she she won't say no, she'll say, I might be able to, and then what she'll do is she'll never respond to you. Now, if you ever ask her, hey, what about this weekend? You look lame. You look lame. Oh, here he goes again. I didn't even respond to him. I I blatantly disrespected him before, and here he is trying again. I disrespected him and he still is trying. That means that he has no options. That must mean that he's weird, which is a valid way to look at it because a guy with no options likely is insecure. A guy that is secure will likely have multiple options, and girls know that. And girls, it's not that girls are attracted to you seeing other women, it's that women trust other women's opinion of men. They are willing to say, is this guy creepy? Is he cool? No, he's a creep. Alright, thank you. I won't even go talk to him, right? They are willing to trust women because they want to be safe and they need to be safe. So so do men, but obviously the man is usually a lot more physically capable. So the girl has to make sure that you are legit, that you are emotionally sound. That everything that you do has to show her that you are emotionally sound. And if she were to break up with you out of nowhere, you'd be completely fine. Because, oh well, that's fine. I have plenty of uh I've got other girls that I can talk to. It's not like you're a player, it's not like I can get any girl I want. It's not like you're just this freaking um, you know, man, child, whatever. It's it's that like of why wouldn't so a girl want to date you? She knows, like, well, he he's got his life together. He's a really great guy, he's really funny, he's pretty good looking. Like a lot of girls would would want to date him. Like, they they see you as that, right? They know they want you as that. Because even if like it doesn't work out, she knows that you're not gonna be that crazy ex-boyfriend that they all have had, that they all have had the guy that really could not take it when they were breaking up and totally had an emotional panic. Because women are emotionally more logical than men, men are more emotional. Uh, they're like, oh my gosh, that girl's so hot, I want to marry her. Like, I'm already done, I'm ready to sign up right right now. I'm I don't even know need to know anything about her. The the men are stupid with their hearts, all right? And that's what happens is you go out there and be you be stupid with your heart and you give her all this attention as if you guys were this great match, but all you know about her is that you're attracted to her, and then that is enough for most men to start acting a fool and to put the girl on a pedestal, and she can see that hey, literally all you know about me is my looks, so this is really creeping me out because you you like me as much as someone that you have genuine chemistry with. So this is how the the girl's brain is working on it, and it's completely logical. So it's kind of funny because like men get um praised for having a more logical mind, um, which I do believe is true, but they really have a much more emotional heart, and um that that's why the dating dynamic can be very weird because the girl has an emotional heart, she's not going to let herself like you until there's a reason to do so, and your looks are a little bit, um, will will do a little bit for you, but it's generally uh doesn't completely sell a girl on you like it does to a man. Um a woman's beauty is it can can fool a man a lot easier, right? So um yeah, you gotta know that going in. Now you live to fight another day. You can oh, I can't go to the concert. Thank you so much for asking me though. Cool, no worries. And then now what does she think? I don't even know if I'll ever get invited to him by any uh ever again. The girl who rejected you and said, I can't go to lunch that day. I can't go to lunch the next day either. No, I can't. She knows like I'm gonna hear from him again, and now you are predictable, you are boring, and and that is that does not help you. You are now fighting an uphill battle because now the next time you talk you t you text her, it the the text right above was you saying, No worries, just let me know, is what the text is right above. And now you say, Hey, what about this weekend? I don't have any plans this weekend. Do you? I I can be flexible. When are you free? You have nothing going on. You she is your life, you have nothing going on without. Is how she is interpreting it, and she's probably accurately interpreting it at that point, right? So you need to go do the things that you want to do and then invite girls along. And you gotta get it out of your head that you're not going to always get this one-on-one time with a girl at a bar that's right next to your house, and then you're gonna go to the dinner that night, too. We we went and we got a drink, and then we really were having a good time, so we got lunch, and then we went and got another drink, and then we went to the museum, and then we went to dinner, and then uh and then we made out, and then uh she wants to see me tomorrow. Like, that's not going to happen, okay? Like the guy, like that's how they are like a lot of guys are like drawing it up in their mind where your your pace is gonna be fast and this is gonna happen, then this is gonna happen, it's all gonna be great. You need to know that she has been offered to go on more dates from other guys than you have from other girls, and all the other guys are doing the exact same line of events that they're trying to do with her. They're all trying to say, like, all right, I'm gonna, oh yeah, can you uh do you want to meet for a drink? Just me and you only, and you're gonna be trapped with me. And whether you have a good time or not doesn't matter because I'm already completely sold on you from your looks. So even if we do have a bad time because we don't really communicate, well, it will still be awesome for me. That is what she is hearing, that is what you are saying. So all you need to do is I'm going to this concert, right? She's like, This is awesome. This guy's great. Like, he goes to concerts, he does things on his own, he has an extra ticket, he must be well connected, or or I guess he's just had the money to buy an extra ticket for me. So that's nice, and maybe I will go. I won't go, it doesn't matter. Hey, no problem. Now, what does she see? She sees that on your Instagram story that you went anyways. You are always going to do this stuff. This is not reliant on, hey, can you go? No, all right, I won't go either. You are going with or without her. The party is happening, whether or not she comes or not. And now she has FOMO. She's sitting at home, she has a boring evening, or she went out with some other guy, and it turned out to be fucking lame. She went out to go get drinks with some guy who is just super lame, and she was there for like two hours before she had to get out of there. And then she goes and checks your Instagram story, and there you are at this awesome concert having an amazing time, and you and uh and she's like, Oh my gosh, I should have gone with him. And then in like a month or two, you say, Hey, I'm going to this thing. I'm I'm going to the look this wine fest in the area. Do you want to go with me? All right, cool, I'll get you a ticket. Now you can just say it that way this time, right? You don't even have to say the extra ticket thing. Obviously, you're not gonna say that every time, but you could say, Yeah, cool, I'll get you a ticket. Don't make her okay, cool. Here's the link to buy yourself a ticket. Absolutely not. It doesn't matter if you're dealing with a feminist, they're all lying to themselves. Buy them a ticket. So, yeah, okay, cool. I'll grab you a ticket. Oh, oh no, it's no problem. It's like 50 bucks. Oh, yeah, it's no problem. Cool, I got you the ticket. Now you go. Now, now what you do is you meet her there, okay? You do not pick her up unless you know her very well already. Because you have to understand it from the girl's perspective. She has to prioritize her safety. You know that you're not a creepy guy, she does not act accordingly because as soon as you put her in this situation that, oh my gosh, if this guy turned out to be a creep, I'm going to be in a dangerous spot. You have to organize the night based on that. So, okay, cool. Yeah, do you want to meet me there? And then um that then guess what? You guys can if you want to go in one car to the next thing after, you can on a first date. You never have you never offer to pick her up. It sounds like, well, that's nice. No, it's not. It creeps them out, they don't like it, as they should be scared of that, right? Like not scared, but like cautious, right? They should not be putting themselves in a situation for a guy that maybe they just met you on a dating app, maybe they've met you one time at a coffee shop or whatever, and you got their number. Uh, they should not be me getting picked up from you because what that also means is giving out their address to you, so that is a big danger zone. So you will meet them there, and then there you go. Um, so that's the way to ask them out. Now, backtracking the well, actually, no, it's it's all it's all a cycle, so I can I guess I can start at any point in the cycle. But what happens? So let's say that they she can't go, and then you can ask if you got another girl on your list, you can ask her the same thing, and um, and then if neither of them can make it, then you go to the event and it's a lead collecting event, essentially, right? You're gonna go there, you're gonna enjoy yourself, you're going to go up to people that you want to talk to, both men and women alike, but especially women, obviously. You're going to go up to them and you're just gonna meet people, and then you're gonna get their Instagram or you're gonna get their phone number, whichever one is your style. It's also kind of dependent on whether you have um, you know, an Instagram that you you it actually doesn't really matter, even like a guy that is like a private account with like a hundred followers, like a lot of girls like that. So you really don't even need an optimized account. Um, sometimes I also don't even want them to know too much about me just yet. So it is okay to get phone number, you're gonna have to just feel it out. But a lot of times I like to get Instagram, especially if I'm not sure about them. Like, yeah, what's your Instagram? You're or I what I would say is, do you want to be friends on Instagram? Even though that's kind it's kind of a unique way to say it, but it's better than like, can I follow you on Instagram? Or do you want to follow me on Instagram? Or do you want to follow each other? Because there is a negative connotation that is um under that, right? Can I follow you? Right? It sounds creepy. So even though it is subliminal, it still does count. So that's why I like to say, Do you want to be friends on Instagram? It's very short, and then they basically always say yes. Then what happens is they pull out their phone. Then once they pull out their phone, I put my I they usually give it to you, right? They'll give you their phone, I put in my Instagram name of my personal account, I click on it, and then I give it back to them. So they have to click follow. I'm not gonna click follow for a little bit. I used to do a joke where they would give me their phone, I would go on my account, I would like like three photos, and then I would follow me and then I'd give it back to them. And some girls found it funny, some of them thought it was lame, but either way, I thought it was funny, so it doesn't fucking matter. But still, I'm not really trying to count myself out yet or show it's actually kind of weird. You actually don't want to show too much personality yet, because it's better that they guess about you, it's better that they don't know that much, actually. And you trying to be funny is actually sometimes can hurt you, even though like being funny is like a big part of me. You if you're going out of your way to be like, I gotta make him laugh, I gotta make him laugh, I gotta make him laugh. It there is a point to which they're trying to say, like, why is he trying so hard? Right? Just literally just be like so plain is actually a better strategy for a lot of people. Just be masculine is more how I should say it, not plain. You should be masculine, it's not a big deal. You get girls' numbers all the time. You the it's not weird at all. I do this all the time, okay? Is it is how you need to be. It just it's essentially nonchalant. You can be excited, you can be happy, you can be having a good time with them, you can be cracking jokes with them for sure. Just don't you don't need to be like tell them three jokes and ask for their number. It doesn't have to be how you think of it, right? Um, so, anyways, you put in your account, you you you give them back the phone, then they follow you, and then what you do is just grab your phone and like follow them right back, right then. So there's not like this extra game of and then I waited an hour to follow her back. Okay, you actually want to take away the game because they'll appreciate that. Um, because uh every other guy is kind of like, oh yeah, like take a while to text them back and they'll think that you're like busy and they'll think you're like high value. You can't do that anymore because they've already been down that road. So you actually cannot be fake. You you just need to be like you be actually the man, actually be the man, and then you don't have to learn game. If you are actually the man, you don't have to learn game. I'm kind of teaching you game right now, but I do have this down to a strategy because there are certain ways that you want to say something, right? Uh the first time you can just be like, oh, can I follow you on Instagram? Like it, you gotta be like, that sounded not perfect, right? So that's why there is a little bit of strategy that is still good to get. But the only way that you'll always make the right decisions of when should I ask them out again, when should I text them again, is to actually have your life together because you will be actually busy and then you'll just text her when you're free. So sometimes you'll be free right away and you'll text her right away. Sometimes you actually will will be on a call, like you, or you'll be in a client meeting, like you you actually can't respond to her, and that's fine. And then you text her and then you say, Sorry, I was in a client meeting, and then you can let her know, like I would love to text you quickly, I just couldn't there. And it's real, it's not that you're just like respond after three hours of you playing video games and staring at the phone, which is what you're doing, and she fucking knows it because she can read your mind. You actually have to be the shit. Okay, so how do you actually be the shit? You live your life, and then you invite girls along. And if they can't come, you still go. You go live your life either way. You go by yourself, and then you go meet some people, and then you turn them into uh an Instagram follower, and then you can watch their story and they can watch yours. Maybe you realize that they have uh you guys have a lot of things in common, right? You get over their Instagram and you can see, like, oh wow, you like this kind of music too? That's awesome. Hey, by the way, I was gonna go to this concert in in two weeks or like ten days. Do you want to go with me? Um, sure. I I I don't know if I can afford a ticket right now. Oh, no worries, I'll I'll get you one. Um, but yeah, if if you can make it, then we can meet there around five. Because I'm not gonna try to pick you up because I'm not a creep. So yeah, we could meet around like five and uh we can just watch the opener. Um and uh yeah, if if you got other friends that want to come too, bring them along. Okay, that's totally fine too. Like if you're like trying to go to a concert, you gotta realize like how much does she know you? Base the date around her feeling completely safe around it. That's something why a lot of you are losing out on the date. You're thinking, oh, she wasn't interested in me. She was, but then you put her in a situation where she had to know that you were not a creep. And then she was like, whatever, I'm not gonna take a risk. He's not that cute. Where he's I've got like four other guys texting me, so like I'll just let this one go. Okay, so that's why you need to court her, you need to lead her this whole time, and you need to make it like this was easy. This was just easy to see this guy. This guy made it so easy to hang out with him. Hey, do you want to do this really fun thing that I bet you would like to do? Go look at her Instagram a little bit, figure out what she likes, and do a good ask. Invite her to something fucking awesome, right? And something that you would like to do too. And then if she does she doesn't want to go or she can't go, then you still go, and then you can you can post about it. It's not even part of a game. Like, if it's cool, you'll probably post it on your story anyways, but she'll see and she's like, Oh dang, this guy moves on. This guy is going on with life, with or without me. And that's how she wants it to be. She wants to jump on your ship. She wants to say, This guy's got a cool ship. This guy's got a cool life, he's driving in a cool direction. Can I come with you? You say, Yeah, hop in. Okay, that's what it is like. It's not like, yeah, do you wanna do you wanna go in your spaceship later? You want to show me your hobbies later? You want to show me what you do? You want to invite me on a date? You want to pick a time, tell me what it'd be, you want to pay for it? No, no, no, no, no. All this feminist shit that is trying to be like it's all equal, like just men and women should pay equally. It gives girls the ick. It doesn't matter, even if they're the most feminist girl on the planet, it gives them an ick. If you're like, Do you want to pay for the date? Since you're like just as capable as me, it doesn't matter. Of course, they're just as capable. Like, you are the provider, you are the leader, you are the one making the plans, and you are making it so she can be in her feminine energy. If you want to see her again, you need to allow her on the front first date to be in her feminine energy, which is that, oh wow, I don't really have to think about every little thing that we're doing. So I can just enjoy the moment. I can enjoy this wine fest. I can think, oh my gosh, what a beautiful day. I I can put my effort into the clothing that I chose, I can put my effort into just getting ready, I can put my effort into talking to my mom a little bit before I go on the date. So I can tell her about you. I can put the effort into talking to my friend beforehand. I can tell her who you are and where my location is and what the password is in case I need to get picked up. I can tell her, which is not going to be necessary, but she is still going to plan accordingly. Um, and um, yeah, I can um I can think about how cool you are in my mind and how how you had a plan and you came to me and you you got me a ticket and we're going this thing, it's gonna be awesome, and I'm I have to meet you here at this time, and it's all just I just have to follow along, and she will feel feminine and you will be masculine, and that is how attraction happens. It actually is that if you're not being able to get attraction from a girl, it's because you're operating too much in your your feminine, which is making her operate in her masculine, which makes it feel like you guys are friends and not a true masculine-feminine dynamic. Now, the last part that I want to say here is that the goal of all of this, once you get married, is to retire her. You do not want your wife to be working for a corporation, you un unless she loves it. Unless she loves it. Okay, if she loves going to that nine to five, she loves everyone she works with, she loves being on the clock, she loves all the extra shit that HR gives her. Right? If they love it, go, then there you go. There's your answer. But if she hates it, your business needs to make enough money, or you need to make a business with her that utilizes both of your skills, or you need to be able to have her help around just so much in the house and with just your family, even my girlfriend or my fiance. I just pulled up to my house. She's at my mom's house right now because she's retired, she works for me, but she also is like very flexible, right? So, right now she's over at my mom's house helping my mom with her garden. That's great because otherwise, my mom would have asked me to help her with her garden, and I would have been like, uh fuck. So now she's over there. Well, I get to do a podcast and I get to keep working. So even if all they do is just things around the house, that also just gives you all of that time back. So that get like they don't even have as long as you make more than they do, it makes sense for them to quit right away. The math will make it make sense. So the job, the goal is to get them to not have to work, or they work for you, which is basically they're always going to do some kind of work for your business, or they're gonna start the business with you. You can do the hormosy style relationship where you're just both 50-50 CEOs, even. There's so many different ways to do it, but you need to make sure that her career is going to be fulfilling and fun for her. And women usually want some daylight hours, okay? And my girl is so content being able to help around the house all day, take the schedule as she needs it, do some fun work for me. I've got so much work that I can hand her. I'm like, hey, what do you want to do of these three jobs? What sounds the most fun for you today? And then she can do it at home with her dog on her lap, and then she can go sit outside, and then she can eat her lunch that she wants and not go have to go buy fucking Jimmy John's for the 800th time downtown. It's not that fucking weird. We've just made it weird in a society where they're trying to make women value, oh yeah, climbing the corporate ladder is the most fulfilling thing in life. And it's just not for anyone, it's not for anyone. So yeah, you need to be making the money and you need to create opportunities that allows her to live the lifestyle that she wants because, especially if you're gonna have kids, she's already gonna have a super hard job that is constantly demanding. And if you don't want to have to pay $1,500 to $2,500 a month for daycare, just so your wife can make $4,000 a month and you guys can net $1,500 and your wife never sees your child, then uh yeah, go for it. That that's a great way to do it. Why don't you just make way more money than she could ever get paid from the job? And then there you go, her just even helping around the house and and in life will totally pay for itself. So that is the goal. And every girl out there would be so lucky to go on that mission with you because her other guys that are messaging her are all trying to get her to work her salary job until she reaches 65 so that she can retire and they can live off their Roth IRA that they got from their 3% match, and now they can finally go to Italy and uh as a 65-year-old and realize like, wow, I wish we traveled when we were younger, or I wish I didn't waste so many hours commuting to this stupid fucking job dealing with all these stupid fucking people. Alright, that's what uh seriously feminism is like trying to get girls to like value, so like you're gonna have to reject that. And there's a lot of girls out there who won't get it, and it is your job to explain it to them. So if you can con if you can show that if you can take girls out of this like BS that the news tries to put on them, they will love you forever. Alright, that really is your your job more so than go out there and agree with them on all of their current political and religious beliefs is not what you should be doing, okay? But you should go out there and you should have fun first, have fun, have a great time, let them let them get it out of their system, let them tell you all their stuff, and then oh over time, once they trust you, you will adapt your full masculine frame so that they can adapt their full feminine frame, and you will be the leader of that relationship. Because that's the that's how it's always worked, and that is how uh girls will absolutely prefer it. They love that you are the one having to slave away at uh a job, and then they're like, Thank you, thanks for the money. I'm gonna work on my garden, I'm gonna work on my sourdough bread. Why like that's that's the life, right? It's it's the shit. So create that for them, and you have something that most other guys are will never have the chance to create for them.